It can drastically change a persons day & mood & ruin ones perspective. What is generally presented as news is contrary to the Torahs teachings of reality & how Hashem wants us to live.
We are here to serve Hashem with joy. To uplift others , to connect with Hashem & to strive to improve ourselves.
The news in general is a form of loshon hora by highlighting , dramatizing & presenting rare situations as if they represent the proper norm.
To live a happier , more positive , healthier & peaceful life , we need to avoid focusing on the news in the wrong way.
We need to learn & pay attention to the Good news , that Hashem is providing in abundance.
We need to say with feeling , this too is good. Boruch Hashem
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, July 30, 2010
More Exceptions -90
Word Exceptions -89
* Don't live in that place because there are negative influences upon people there. C. C. 4:10:41.
* Don't hang out with so & so because he behaves with arrogance or anger or wastes time from Torah study etc , and you have to avoid so that you do not learn from his negative ways.
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The explanation for these exceptions is that the primary prohibition of Loshon Hora is when the intention is to demean others & rejoice over their shame , but to protect others from negative influences is a Mitzva.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Stories behind Words - 88
Each year we re learn the Parshiyos of the Torah on deeper & higher levels & we need to asses which stories to amplify & replace. We need to develop our creativity & realize how much abundance & infinite potential Hashem blesses us with.
The choices are ours. Which words do we want to use to take us where we want to go ?
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, July 29, 2010
Pain = Gain -87
But we need to understand the concept. Pain can be a test to see how committed we are to the Mitzva we are doing.
The Mesilas Yeshorim sums up our purpose in life in 3 steps
To perform Mitzvos
To serve Hashem &
To withstand tests.
The more difficulties one encounters in doing what's right , the more rewards for his accomplishment.
In order to enjoy life more , we need to focus on speaking right. One who seems to have more challenges in speech control , should realize that it is a gold mine of an opportunity. Let him devote himself to mastering the laws of proper speech & strike it rich. You will reap huge rewards by focusing on overcoming your urge to speak negative words.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Time is a Decision - 86
We control how we use our time. It is a gift of 168 hours a week from Hashem to use per our choice.
You are in charge & your choices are important.
What needs your attention most now ?
The words you use , the NO to wasting time , and the YES to more joyous time for what matters to you , makes the difference.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Healing - 85
Please bring up a complete healing to all of our wounds.
Although Hashem is invisible , He is the great physician to Whom nothing is impossible. He is the Creator of all & the Healer who can heal all.
We need to focus our thoughts & words of prayer to Him. We can merit help from Hashem by shifting our thoughts to focus on that He is the loyal doctor who is most compassionate. We have the power to merit being healed by Hashem & also to pray for others to be healed , by changing our thoughts to focus sincerely on our prayers.
Our words of prayer can make our world.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Words of Connection -84
Reach out to your loved ones , don't ignore them. There are times to reach out & many Mitzvos that we can do better with others.
The Talmud has an amazing statement which highlights the great significance of learning to interact more with others -
Either one has friends or death ...
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Lonliness -83
If not now , When ?
But there is another factor as well. We are reluctant to do things by ourselves due to loneliness. Thus , finding a partner to work with helps things move faster , smoother & with more joy.
We thrive on guidance , reassurance & encouragement. Gaining the support of others is very helpful to help us achieve our goals.
Even a few words of Chizuk can do wonders to help people achieve great goals.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Words of Resentment - 82
The Mishna Avos 4:18 , cautions - Do not appease someone while he is angry.
Resentment may accumulate at times , people become cold & hostile to each other. We realize it is time to make peace , but how do we start ?
While the anger is seething , it will not work. Don't try to make up before letting go of the anger.
Start talking things over. Realize you both have some flaws , both have some admirable qualities , express some appreciation & gratitude & both sides apologize.
Love & pursue peace , love people ...
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Thanks - 81
Gratitude is a fundamental obligation of being a person., to appreciate all of the many favors & gifts we enjoy from others regularly.
There are many people who have been very helpful in many ways to teach others how to get ahead & succeed in life.
We are actually taught on this weeks Parsha 10:12 , that the Torah is hinting to the Mitzva to say at least 100 thank you Brochos daily.
We also need to learn another Mitzva phrase which are sweet words that people enjoy & can make ones day - you re Welcome.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Monday, July 26, 2010
Good to All - w. 80
One of the insights in this Talmudic saying is that Hashem has everyones benefit in mind.
At times we need to decline & say we are unable at the present to do something for someone. But then we may think we are letting the person down. The truth however is that if this opportunity was not for you Hashem has other & maybe better ways of helping them.
You need to follow the Torah guidelines of when & how to help others & to know that Hashem is still running the whole world , as always , & He knows who needs what , when.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Word Gifts - 79
Who are you when you are at your best ?
What was your best hour yesterday ?
There are times when you are more productive , vigorous & enthusiastic. ! We can extend those times by focusing on then more & making them the vision of how we see ourselves.
You are capable , competent , a good person. Hashem has invested a lot in you to this point & He is eager to do much more for you as soon as you choose to run with it.
The way you see others & yourself will make a great difference in what will develop.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Sunday, July 25, 2010
Words of Apology - 78
It heals , leads to change , saying I'm sorry shows that you really care for the person & you are going to set things straight.
The amazing cleansing power , asking for forgiveness , accepting upon oneself a sincere commitment to improve oneself , one step at a time. It begins with saying I'm sorry & I was wrong.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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The greatest Word Skill - 77
We then describe 4 of his attributes that we need to achieve. The question has been raised , which of the 4 qualities may be considered the greatest of them all ?
A suggestion is the third - loving people & that it was his ultimate secret. He would listen to each person & make them feel as if he were their very best friend & that they were the only person in the room at the time.
To develop this skill will change our lives & enable us to follow in the footsteps of Aharon Hacohen.
To devote your full attention to someone , focus on them completely is a super skill that we need to develop.
Consider when you have a meeting with your big boss , you know how to do this well , because you are convinced it matters.
Really great people do this all the time , with every person.
Don't forget & don't get distracted , it will make a great difference in your life.
The fence for Wisdom is -
Silence - it is a way to show others that you are listening to them , which can make them feel like a million dollars.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Listening to Words - 76
There are 4 parts to the process as we see them divided in the Mishna Avos 5:10 , as the first 4 principles which define a Wise person -
First step - Listen with Respect
Think who is speaking & why are they significant ? We need to show that we respect the speaker & demonstrate that we are eager to listen to them. Act as if the speaker is the only person around.
Second Step - Don't interrupt
The way you face the person , from your eyes to your body language , can communicate how important they are & how you desire to hear what they want to say.
Step 3 - Don't rush to Respond
Think before you speak to respond. All of these steps require discipline. The more you think it over & consider the meaning & value of the message you just heard , you demonstrate how you value the speaker.
Step 4 - Listen Well & prepare your response
Think , do I have all the necessary information. ?
What will be the consequences of my response ?
Will my response hurt anyone ?
Even if my response is the truth , is it worth it to say it now ?
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Word Focus - 75
It takes determination , motivation , prayer & effort & Hashem will lead you to achieve. Hashem helps us with abundant success when we focus properly.
Hashem encourages us - Open your mouth wide & I will fill it up.
This is part of the system of , He used to say , which is a method of developing the right focus by means of ongoing review.
But words are not all , the main point is the resulting action (Avos ).
Always think - how can I apply this lesson today. ?
We need to teach ourselves & others how to live & master our challenges.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Saturday, July 24, 2010
Word Dreams - 74
A wise person sees ahead to that which will develop.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, July 23, 2010
Word Awakening - 73
We need to listen well to the gentle nudge so that we can be spared from having to deal with a rude awakening. Every word has a purpose.
Should we get angry at the messenger ?
Not much. When we realize that it was sent by Hashem who has tons of messengers at His disposal , we will relax a bit.
Instead , we should consider thanking & appreciating a critic who may be one of your best teachers.
If its true , correct it ,
If not , forget it.
But either way , Hashem is sending you a caring , loving message - we are in this world to grow , keep on improving & coming closer to Hashem.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Envy -72
Rather , we are taught to learn from all others. We should realize if Hashem showed me what He gave so & so He is hinting that He is eager to do the same for me.
No one can take anything away from you , if Hashem wants it for you. Hashem closes the 10 with this Mitzva to highlight how significant it is to know that Hashem is always giving us all that we need to become who we can be.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words we should Repeat - 71
His disciple Rebbi Akiva taught a person should always say - All that the Merciful one does is for Good !
This practice will go along way in preventing Loshon Hora - it is good - why say something negative ?
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Word Clarity - 70
We need to learn how to view the world clearly , how to avoid saying the wrong things & how to use words properly.
No one is hurt by the words they avoid saying.
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Thursday, July 22, 2010
One Word - 69
We do need to strive to the exalted vision of eventually reaching the level of becoming completely Loshon Hora free , but it takes time to reach that stimulating , expansive , ultimate goal.
We need to visualize it as we buckle down to take small steps , such as reading one point at a time of this book.
To create healthy & happy relationships with words is one of the greatest opportunities & challenges of our lives. Every word can be a gift from Hashem to use for our well being in an uplifting & elevating manner.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Avoid Foolish Words - 68.
Even that the Talmud explains should be avoided , because it is considered behaving as a fool , Mishlei 10.
Why ?
1- why cause pain to the listener ?
2- Why say things that can have a negative effect on the speaker also to think as a fool , who do not understand the real truth , Tehilim 92:7.
The Righteous are considered alive , even after they seem to have passed away.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Abundance -67
But did he say that only after he had billions in his account ?
The answer is that He was connected to Hashem the source of all wealth. The secret to abundance is to open our mind & heart to Hashem. The key to prosperity is to rejoice with ones portions - all those gifts we keep on receiving from Him.
We need to focus on Hashems unlimited supply , the abilities He gave us to be creative , to expand & increase. Hashem is our supplier , we will never lack , Tehilim 23.
How do you prepare to receive what you want ?
Focus on the thoughts , sayings & prayers that work.
You set my table ... My cup is overflowing.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Words that fit most - 66
* He refuses to study Torah.
* He said a lie.
* He is so stingy he does not spend a dime to honor Shabos.
* I saw him transgress a law of the Sages.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Beyond Words -65
Often , there are other forms , such as simply being there , that matters even more. Some people have said to others , the one thing that meant the most was knowing that you are always there for me. Being there for someone is so vital , so meaningful.
The benefit of a bikur cholim visit is well known to assist in recovery , just being there matters most , well beyond words.
This helps us understand the Mishna in Avos 1:15 -
Greet & accept every person with a pleasant , thoughtful face.
The Mishna does not mention saying words at this point. Right before this we actually say , talk less & do more. Put the proper expression in your face & body language that is the key.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Time to Leave. W - 64
We need to get away , not to sit it out. Your time , attention & life are valuable , you need to invest your presence in experiences that are worth your while.
It may be uncomfortable or awkward to leave , but staying should be more uncomfortable.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Monday, July 19, 2010
Self-Talk - 63
Imagine someone who protects himself from stray germs from outside , but they inflict themselves with constant negativity & pollution.
A person can hurt himself with internal criticism & negative self - talk. When a person cries & complains when they should be thinking & thanking Hashem for the constant flow of happiness He is sending our way all the time.
Some of it is in digiused forms but it is none the less precious & beneficial & we need to claim it now.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Boring Words ? -62
We can transform every situation into an interesting , meaningful experience by utilizing our curiosity to develop a positive attitude.
You can learn to glow with enthusiasm by tuning into the right attitude. Everything can be made fascinating by thinking Hashem made this just so. Why ?
What is the purpose ?
What messages are there for me ?
We can learn to stimulate our mind to soar with joyous , uplifting thoughts.
There are special days such as Tisha Bav where we are obligated to focus on concepts of mourning for that is the Mitzva for that time. Hashem should bring the geula shleima.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Speed of Words -61
To release our energy , talent & passion ,
The speed one travels on the roads of life are determined by Hashem based on ones beliefs , concepts & the words you choose to use.
The Talmud declares - a person is led on the path he chooses.
When you release your true passions about something , Hashem will enable you to achieve it.
Your attitude is developed by the words you say when you speak to yourself.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Sunday, July 18, 2010
Joyuos Words -60
Happiness is a choice we need to decide to commit to. When we choose to rejoice with our portion , we will experience happiness. We can develop & maintain our joy , with Hashems help because it is an inner job , up to us.
Choose to be positive & fun & Hashem will help you succeed at it. The road to wealth is paved with words of joy.
We need to avoid sin , which is said to stand for , self - inflicted - nonsense , & ask Hashem to help us grow in an ideal way. Don't stop until you ask Hashem for what you really want. What is the biggest truth you can dream of now ?
Hashem is our ultimate Employer & He is eager to hear from us !
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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One Word Away -59
The C. C. States clearly 5:7 ,
Just as it is forbidden to speak against a person , so too , it is forbidden to speak against his merchandise or any of his things out of envy , etc.
One can take any question or comment , add a one - sentence segue & use it to proclaim a message or clarify the truth. We can learn to move conversations into meaningful zones.
Instead of focusing on critical , negative issues, you can steer the conversation to the right track with a wisely chosen bridge of words.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Word Trouble - 58
Life & death are in the hands of ones tongue , M. 18:21.
The tongue can become a lethal weapon. The gemara tells a story of a person who did a seemingly perfect crime & would not be caught. But than he bragged about it to someone who made sure to get him caught.
This illustrates how Hashem designed the mouth to trap someone when he deserves that.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Saturday, July 17, 2010
Wasted Words -57
A fault finder drives away his friends. Mishlei 16:28.
People dislike complainers. Hashems great purpose in creating the Universe was for kindness , Tehilim 89:3. This is Hashems greatest desire , Micha 7:18.
Hashem is our greatest & best Friend , the source of all of our friendships.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, July 16, 2010
Word Metaphors - 56
The Talmud says that the third person is one with a character flaw.
His manner of expression is a clue to what he is all about. Better than a handwriting analysis , we have a word usage profile.
Like the story of the 3 people who were reporting about a banquet they had attended. One said , I loved the Torah insight , the second one loved the singing & the ruach. The third loved the food !
The words you choose to use influence your future & reveal your past. Hashem grants us the power to intensify or diminish our feelings & emotions by means of how we express ourselves.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Value of Words -55
The Talmud Bava Basra 9b , teaches that one who gives a poor person even a single coin gains 6 glorious blessings from Heaven. But one who adds some kind words gains 11 additional blessings.
We see that words are worth almost twice as much as money !
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Choosing Words - 54
This teaches us the proper attitude. Words should not become our enemy. They can be our friends when we learn how to avoid the negative & choose the right ones.
Here are some tips on finding the best words & feeling better.
1. Relax your mind & emotions, realize that Hashem will help you & enjoy the process. When you focus on loving the days Hashem provides , He will expand your time to get more done.
2. Hashem has ways of providing you with an abundance of the right words at the right time.
3. Keep good cheer & joy at the top of your list of priorities. Don't rush , think instead , how can I enjoy this project Hashem is sending my way. ?
4. Take a pause when you feel drained. Say , let me catch my breath with some silence to regenerate my supply of words.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Judgement - 53.
Thus the C. C. Teaches a great , primary rule in these matters (3:7).
If one errs & judges someone to the negative & then speaks against that person , it is a double crime for he also transgreses the Mitzva to judge others favorably.
We tend to have mistaken assumptions. We may be wrong in thinking we know why someone is doing something you think should be different. We think we know better , how things should be.
Stop judging negatively , be positive & get a double mitzva.
Gossip begins in ones mind , based on the way we perceiove things. We need to change the way we look at things , to always use Torah vision.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, July 15, 2010
Words for a Reason - 52
Some are quick lessons with blessings , gifts that enable & empower you to grow & succeed. A brief phrase may answer a question that sheds light & directs you on the course to stay on track.
Some words are challenges to get us to think , to question , to yearn & grow.
Every season has a reason for us to develop our path & purpose in Hashems service. Every word can guide us closer to align with Hashem.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Timely Words - 51
If a fruit is plucked off a tree while it is unripe , it may be inedible , untasty & unhealthy. If you wait too long it can become spoiled & harmful. Everything has a right time.
Mishlei teaches , a thing in its proper time is great. The timing is an essential element of each entity.
The Mishna Avos 4:4 teaches
There is no person who does not have his time !
The word dovor means thing , but is the same as dibur for words. Every word has its time. We need to pray for Hashems help to say the right words at the proper time.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Words that Lead - 50
What would you like to achieve ?
Hashem can help you succeed.
What makes you really come alive ?
Hashem is eager to lead you to where you want to go , but He wants you to ask Him for help.
You can choose limitations or to break free from them with Hashems help.
If you need a job , realize there is an employer who is looking for someone with your unique skills , ask Hashem to help you connect.
If you are searching for just the right Shiduch , yes , there is someone looking for you , but you need to ask Hashem to be the Shadchan.
It is amazing how Hashem makes incredible connections , but it all starts with our Words to Him.
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What do you want most now ?
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Don't make the mistake of using the Word - but -
Hashem can do it & He is eager to help you - that is final. Period.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words in a Forest - 49
The Chofetz Chaim cites 3:6:7 , the Rabeinu Yonah that their are two parts to gossip -
The harm & shame to the victim ,
& the choice to speak words that negate someone & rejoice in their pain. Thus the C. C. Teaches that if one spoke with the awareness that no harm will result to the victim , it is still forbidden.
We are suggesting a step further even if one is alone in a room the Torah does not want a person to vilify another.
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Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Small words- 48
We need to recognize the big picture of life - Hashem runs the World. He is always in charge. We become bigger & better when our words are Torah checked.
Not just spell checked. That is how we connect with Hashem & gain the great satisfaction of of participating in Hashems world on His terms & earning eternal rewards.
The Mishna to love your work can remind us also - to love our words. Say them right , & they will be worth a fortune.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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New Words ?
The truth is what you need most is to be sincere & honest to express the gifts Hashem gave you which is YOU.
Each of us concludes our daily Shemoneh Esrei by asking to give us our portion in Your Torah.
Its not a new message that counts most , its your style , flavor , angle , ^l experience that comes through.
Stick to your personal flavor , to the gifts Hashem granted you and you will discover His blessings showering upon you in abundance.
Express your unique words , & you will succeed uniquely.
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Words that Connect - 46
When we begin to pray , we ask - please open my lips so that I can relate Your praises.
We have a unique power that Hashem has granted us - the ability to connect to Him by means of our Words.
Hashem is close to all those - - who call Him sincerely !
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Monday, July 12, 2010
Word of Mouth - 45
X may mean excellence
Y may mean convenience
Z may mean service
A can stand for dependable
B for a solid reputation.
C for ultimate quality
D for quick delivery.
The perception we create & maintain about ourselves & others can build or destroy ones reputation thus leading to the laws of Loshon Hora.
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Sunday, July 11, 2010
Approved Words - 44
Thus we need to focus on kosher topics that uplift. Speak in all of His wonders , for example.
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Repeating Words - 43
The more one tells a story , the more it reinforces its hold on people & increases the likelihood of its being believed & repeated further.
We must repent from all negative stories & switching to new kosher ones.
Hashem loves us dearly & He wants us to be happy & to enable others as well , to have happy , good days.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Long Words , short - 42
There is a fundamental Mishna Avos 1:17, which we need to review at least once a day - there is nothing better for ones health than Silence !
We will practice our own message & stop this now.
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Secret Words - 41
We need to take the time to look below the surface of the words we consider using. It is like mining for gold or oil , the words may be explosive in a negative way & we can become rich by avoiding them.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, July 8, 2010
Words to Avoid - 40
Imagine someone shooting someone & then saying that line.
* You look nice today.
What about other days. ?
Leave out the word - today.
Words are powerful , we must watch every one of them.
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Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Word switch - 39
If the mouth is left without control it leads to sin , thus if the Peh / mouth comes first we have pesha.
If we place shtika first , with a shin for silence & mouth control - we have Shefa.
That is why Mishlei 10:18 says
With excessive speech one cannot refrain from pesha.
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Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Positive Words - 38
Good or not bad !
Half full or half empty. !
Kosher , not kosher or treifa.
Its not true , its a lie.
The Talmud teaches that the one who always used the positive became a great Torah sage.
Why ?
Words are decisions.
To tell someone something is not kosher is better than saying it is treif. It is more caring & less hurtful.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words make the Difference - 37
The Ge mara teaches that it is a good idea to stay away from the second type of person.
Why ?
Words are like name labels , they also influence the person. Even the clothing we wear influences a person , the words we speak surely change us , word by word. As we use kind & gentle words , we become more like that.
A person was created in Hashems image. He also has certain animilistic tendencies in order to challenge him to grow.
Now it is true that Hashem created all , even non kosher animals & there are many lessons we learn from them , such as - be strong as a lion to fulfill the will of your Heavenly Father. But Kosher animals were permitted for food in order to provide us with energy in order to study Torah.
We need to also develop our positive Torah self - esteem by saying Hashem created this world for my benefit ! Sanhedrin 37a.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Monday, July 5, 2010
Geuss who ? Words - 36
Rebbe Akiva !
One illustration of how it transformed his life was when he met the famous Rochel who became his wife. She said to him , you have the potential to become one of the greatest Sages of the generation if you devote yourself to Torah study !
He could have said , do you realize that I have a degree in shepherding , I have a great career etc , instead he listened & changed the world.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Word Benefits -35
Silence. Avos 3:13.
There are many reasons for this & thus many benefits that are derived from it.
1- Words are so precious , they should never be wasted. They reveal who we are & form who we become. One who uses 4 words to say something that can be said in 2 is diluting ones thinking ability & weakening ones focus. Silence protects & insures our thinking.
2-The primary reason for speech control is - one who is wise , or one who desires to gain wisdom , does not speak in the presence of one who is greater. Avos 5:7.
Thus the practice of silence , even for a moment , can help us in training ourselves to be aware of Hashem which is the greatest form of WISDOM.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Sunday, July 4, 2010
Three Word Rules - 34
* Always avoid indecent Words.
* Always speak in a refined manner &
* Teach in a brief way.
By all 3 rules we say - do it always & be a person - adam.
This corresponds to the teaching in Chulin 89 a - What's is a persons primary skill in this world ?
To control ones speech.
An example in the Talmud - Eiruvin 53b. One should not say -
Which road do I take to ...
When you can say - which way to ?
2 hebrew words , instead of 4.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Light - 33
But it really refers to the night of , so why do we say the opposite ?
The Talmud explains that it teaches us how important every word is.
Words influence our minds. Saying positive , cheerful words help boost a persons spirit to be more joyful & in a happier mood.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Saturday, July 3, 2010
Word Power - 32
* It is how He maintains the existence of the world - Tehilim 119:89
Our choice of words can make all the difference in our lives. Our prayers can save our lives. Effective meaningful words can help someone secure a good position of employment.
You may have heard the story of the fellow who had on his resume - maintains the morale of the entire office !
When he was asked as to what that really meant ?
He said , he would put up the coffee for them.
The Aleph Beis are the letters with which Hashem created the Heavens & the earth , Brochos 55 a.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, July 2, 2010
Word illusions - 31
The Talmud teaches us that in the Aleph Beis , the letter Ayin comes before the Peh to remind us to always See the truth first , before speaking the wrong way.
One example is how the evil inclination tries to persuade us that we are phonies & frauds , while the truth is we do have challenges , but we should be sincere & try to do our best to strive to serve Hashem & improve ourselves slowly but surely.
The Torah truth is that the voice that calls you a fraud is the real fraud - a form of Loshon Hora.
Every word we say needs to be Kosher , each step is part of our growth process.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, July 1, 2010
Thinking & Speaking Words -30
But then before we speak , we are obligated to edit & sift through the material. We need to sort out what to say & what to discard without mention. We must learn to pay attention to many Torah guidelines to fine tune & polish our words so that they are sin free. The delete button has to be used again & again to comply with all of technical details that are essential.
The results will be deeply rewarding as we learn the healthy balance to produce word masterpieces.
The mouth is one of the greatest instruments that Hashem created for us & we must learn how to play it right. Our true potential is incredible & the Chofetz Chaims Sefer teaches us how to play as a true master.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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The Desire for Life - 29
The first step is
Guard your tongue
The way we speak - brings one greater life or depletes ones energy.
Every word we say is important because it develops who we become.
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Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Loving our Days -28
* loves days
* to see good. ?
We have a goal to enjoy our days. To be excited. To focus on our purpose so that we have the right attitude. We should be inspired to want to get up in the morning for a day of service to Hashem.
This carries over to everything we do - Love your Work - Avos 1:10.
Would you not be delighted in the work you do , if you knew that Hashem is asking you to do it ?
If necessary you may need to reinvent what you do to enjoy it more.
All that you can be done for the right reasons - for the sake of Heaven.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Seeing Good - 27
- Do you live somewhere ?
- You get food to eat ?
- Etc.
Gratitude will help you feel good & great
Loshon Hora & complaining are linked to focusing on the wrong things & forgetting all the benefits.
Be grateful & thankful for all of the good Hashem provides , and Hashem will increase His benefits. When a person is happy & joyous with all that you have & also is hungry & eager to grow, that is a healthy balance.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Instead of ... Words - 26
This is some blessing from Hashem , it is for my benefit. It may be for my protection , a lesson , some form of gift or a message.
It does not pay to rant & rave or try to force a fix , rather consider , what would Hashem want me to do now ?
Say Boruch Hashem for this favor. How can this guide me in the right direction ?
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Saturday, June 26, 2010
Word Evaluations - 25
1- one may not say negative , even if its true information ,
2- Even to only one person , it is forbidden. If there are more listeners it is worse.
3- Even if the subject is also present it is forbidden.
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We learn how to evaluate our words - will they possibly hurt someones feelings ?
Will people feel more energized , happy , wholesome ?
The reason proper speech serves as an insurance policy for longevity is because it helps others live with energy & vitality.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, June 25, 2010
Words of Prosperity - 24
We need to focus on the abundance Hashem supplies all over , His power , & generosity. His willingness to help provide for all of our needs & desires.
At each stage of our lives Hashem provides us with goodness for that time. We need to focus on realizing that Hashem is setting things up for us , He is making connections for us. As we focus properly , we will notice valuable gems coming our way that will enable us to grow.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Quiet Words - 23
That is how we uplift the world in our own quiet way.
Hashem provides us with many opportunities to discover our missions in life , we feel a demand for us to step in , a feeling of enthusiasm & a burning desire to get to work , as the Mishna says - Love your Work.
As an example , if you need to put together a team effort for a project , try asking each participant - What part of this project would you like to do most ?
Let people choose their preferences with eagerness & joy , you will make their day & they will make your week.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, June 24, 2010
Watch Your Words - 22
The Mishna teaches us the direct path to wealth - to rejoice with your portion. Contemplate , visualize & feel the riches you already possess by recognizing that you are already wealthy.
To think I need to become rich may be counterproductive.
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This is an example of Loshon Hora when a person rejects the great wealth Hashem keeps showering upon him & makes it seem as if he has nothing.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words of Prayer - 21
We need to refrain from using words in negative ways & instead only use them for the positive.
Hashem is close to all those who call out to Him sincerely , truthfully , as we say in Ashrei. The truth includes knowing who we are - Hashems beloved children.
We need to not only look up , but also look within ourselves to connect to Hashem.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Behind the Words - 20
It may be not to his liking because he was hoping to hear some new insights or some deep analysis or some great stories etc. But this speaker has a different style.
Thus one who demeans the speech for such reasons is lying. C. C. 2:12.
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This is an opportunity to remind ourselves of how to prepare an ideal speech - to divide it into 1/3 halacha , 1/3 agada & 1/3 stories. Sanhedrin 38b.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Word Creations - 19
Life is what happens to us while we are choosing the right words.
Words matter.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Word Titles - 18
These 4 do not merit to come close to the Shechina in the future because they have not developed their positive communication skills.
A flatterer
Liar
Speaker of Loshon Hora
& a scoffer.
The Siman the C. C. Says is
Chashmal ,
Chanifa
Sheker ,
Mesaper L. H. &
Leitz.
We need to focus on what it takes to elevate ourselves to come close to Hashem. One great method is to follow Avos 4:1 - to honor others.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Word Games ? - 17
When someone says the wrong words , they are opting for a lie which undermines their strength. We cannot play small. We cannot act like victims.
Be what Hashem wants you to be. Be strong , wholesome , careful with the laws of proper speech , and magnificent.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Fw: EPI Networking
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Please let your subscribers know that if any knows of a job opening or a jobless candidate, they should inform EPI Networking at Martin@epinetworking.org (EPI stands for Emergency Parnasa Initiative). They have a gemach that offers up to $25,000 to any frum person who wants to open a new business (though it needs to be co-signed and the borrower would need to be bloody-detailed about how they want to spend the money).
Yaakov
Words of Feedback -16
You may offer the speaker privately suggestions on how you think he may improve his speech , for that you can get a Mitzva , but it is forbidden to share your thoughts with others.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Fw: Job Needed for my Friend
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Hi Rabbi,
I have a friend who I would recommend very highly that needs a job either in Lakewood or can travel up to 30-45 min in NJ. He’s very smart, articulate and professional and would be an excellent employee of any company.
Could you please send out his resume (attached) to our daily friends to see if anyone has any ideas or would need someone to join their company.
If anyone has any questions, please contact me at joeherskowitz@gmail.com.
Thanks so much.
Yosef Dov
Words to always Say - 15
Its good !
Why say , how bad , when its truly good !
Hashem has better options for us than we realize. He knows how to arrange ideal situations & accommodations.
Is it kindness ? Yes
Is it Hashems love for us ? Yes
He runs the world & He has our interests in mind !
Words - like this is good , can protect us from saying Loshon Hora against Hashem & missing the great truths of all the benefits Hashem keeps sending our way.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Monday, June 21, 2010
One Word - 14
Big changes usually come in small steps & stages , one word at a time. This is another insight in the Mishna Avos 1:15 - say a little & that will lead you to doing a lot.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Words behind Doors -13
The chofetz Chaim says this is forbidden even if the meeting members did not warn each other not to reveal the details of their closed session.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Sunday, June 20, 2010
Old News - words -12
Even if the information is well known that this person mis behaved when he was young , but he improved his ways. Or their is negative information about his parents , but he is not that way.
It is forbidden to reveal this type of old news even if does not add to the accurate details. Even if every one seems to know about it.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Passionate Words - 11
Oh how I love Your Torah , all day long it is my conversation.
When someone shares a Torah insight with excitement , passion & fascination , we tend to enjoy it more & get excited. We feel renewed , recharged & uplifted. The energy comes through the words to inspire us greatly.
The amount of passion a speaker shares with his words makes all the difference.
If we want to desire life , love days , to see good results , as Tehilim teaches , we need to realize that the key element is the passion we invest.
With Torah guided passion you become a dynamic , charismatic speaker of words , the way words are supposed to used as we state in the Shma.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Less Words - 10
The Chofetz Chaim 2:9 cautions against adding even one word ! Or showing in any way that you are backing some negative statement.
The closer a statement is to truth , the fewer words are needed to express it - & it may still be forbidden words.
The number of words in the 10 Commandments are 172. We learn in Pirkei Avos 1:15 to always train ourselves to say the most with the least amount of words.
You will benefit in many ways. Besides avoiding Loshon Hora , your communication will become crystal clear & your results. .
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Insignificant Words ?- 9
When the Mishna Avos 1:15 teaches the Mitzva to smile at others , it says you should Accept every person , - the way we speak to each other - can make their day & even their week !
One who acts in a rude or gruff manner can be hurting people to their core. We have the power to uplift others & ourselves by the way we use every word we say.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, June 18, 2010
Unforgettable Words - 8
That Loshon Hora are any words that may cause someone harm , whether physical , financial or emotional.
He than gives an example - if one says , so & so does not know how to do his job right
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, June 17, 2010
Welcoming Words - 7
To build them up & encourage them , to find reasons to applaud & praise others , to nurture & be supportive , as we emulate Hashem who is always good to all , as we say in Ashrei.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Word Care - 6
For example can one say -
They are always eating , when his intentions are - they have a large family or they are very generous. But only if he says it before 3 people in a tone of voice that makes his positive intentions obvious.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Kind Words - 5
Words of hope & optimism , a smile , encouragement , powerful Mitzvos with words.
3 Mitzvos we can do daily -
Greet people warmly
Compliment them & praise them for their positive achievements.
Encourage them to do their best.
YOU can do it with Hashems help !
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Monday, June 14, 2010
Word Hints - 4
What if he also says the same comment about himself ?
Both are forbidden.
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Saying to remember
For every moment a person closes their mouth , they merit incredible Rewards.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, June 10, 2010
Word Pressures - 3
What if he may be fired & lose all of his income ?
What if people will call him a fool etc ?
The answers are - No , 3 times.
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Sayings to remember
# Better to be called a fool all of ones life , rather than to be considered wicked before Hashem !
# The Fence for Wisdom is keeping Quiet.
- Until you have something wise , meaningful , positive & worthwhile to say , keep your mouth closed.
- Speak little so that when you do you will make headlines.
- Speak only when you can add positive , Kosher value to the conversation.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Fw: FW: Blood clots and strokes
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Please pass on - blood clots and strokes....please read and remember!!
Blood Clots/Stroke - They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue
I will continue to forward this every time it comes around, some things are too important not to share!
STROKE: Remember the 1st Three Letters....
S. T. R.
STROKE IDENTIFICATION:
During a BBQ, a woman stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) .she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Jane went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening
Jane's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital -
(at 6:00 pm Jane passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Jane would be with &nbs p;us today. Some don't die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this....
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke...totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, whic h is tough.
RECOGNIZING A STROKE
Thank God for the sense to remember the '3' steps, STR .
Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK an d SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
( It is sunny out today.)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
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If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke -------- Stick out Your Tongue
NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this: Ask the person to 'stick' out his tongue... If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.
A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it to 10 people; you can bet that at least one life will be saved.
I have done my part.
Will you?
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Word Power - 2
Idol worship ,
Immorality &
Murder.
How ?
1- He is ignoring the fact that Hashem runs every aspect of the world.
2- he is demeaning people ,
3- he may be ruining their reputation & hurting them as if to kill them.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Words for Wealth
The Chofetz Chaim goes into great detail to help us learn the guidelines for proper speech & avoiding word failings.
The first great rule is that it is forbidden to say even one negative word about someone even if it is the actual truth.
Just as it is forbidden to lie one may not reveal negative truth.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Sunday, June 6, 2010
How to deal with Issues
Not to fight against ...
Korach could have offered Moshe Rabeinu to assist him in running the programs.
We need to focus our energies on solutions. Don't fight an issue , resolve it.
There are always challenges in life. We need to choose to be part of the solutions.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Friday, June 4, 2010
A Staff of 2800
What is the measure for measure ?
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Thursday, June 3, 2010
3 for 3
Torah , Avoda & Chesed.
Torah is our guide , follow its directions not the eyes.
Avoda connects with Tzitzis which is our uniform to reminds us that we are servants of
Hashem.
Chalah is an example of Chesed to always share with others.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Tuesday, June 1, 2010
3 Similar
Vayishlach
Beshalach &
Shelach.
What are the similarities & what are the differences ?
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.
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Sunday, May 30, 2010
3 of 613
A Siman can be made with the 3 lettters of the word Shlach
Shin - Shmiras Einayim - not to stray after ones heart & eyes.
Lamed - Ltzitzis - to wear fringes to remind ourselves that we are Hashems elite servants.
Cheis - To seperat Chalah from dough.
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Fw: Now You Cry?
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Within a few hours, two people came up to me with the same story. Actually, they were entirely different cases, totally different details, but the story is the same.
I put tefillin on a man from England. I did not think that he was Jewish. I had to ask him twice. After finishing with the tefillin, he said that he had an urgent mission. He reached into his wallet and pulled out a small note.
“This is from my father,” he said. “My father is very religious. He goes to synagogue every day. He wants very badly to put this note in the Kotel. He wants G-d to help him with this. This is very important to him.”
“So, go put it between the stones.” I told him.
He wanted me to understand how important the note was. “My father has a great problem. It’s his daughter…He hasn’t spoken to her in over a year….”
“What’s the problem?” I asked. “Is she with a non-Jewish guy?”
“A Muslim,” he answered, meaning that it was even worse. “This is so important to my father.” He insisted again. “My father is so upset. Please put the note in the Wall.”
I asked if his father raised his daughter with her knowing that she had to marry only a Jew.”
“He ignored her, mostly,” he answered. Then he quickly added, “But this is so important to him.”
I told him to go put the note between the stones, tell G-d the problem, and pray that He will help. But I added, “The time to take care of these problems is before they happen, not after they are living together.”
The second case was that of a friend of mine who lives here in the Old City. His brother just passed away, and his wife and children are about to bury him in a non-Jewish cemetery! His mother is fighting this with all her might, and my friend and his wife just flew back to the States to try to make sure that he receives a Jewish burial. There is going to be a Judge’s decision on the matter.
What’s the story? The man was married to a non-Jewish woman, and had non-Jewish children with her. Well, unless there is a huge miracle, and please G-d there will be, surely, the judge is going to side with his non-Jewish family.
The question we have to ask is, why does the family wait until it is too late before they get excited enough to try to heal these situations?
I am sharing these stories with you so that you will take the proper steps before it is too late. First off, for yourself, decide that you want to have a Jewish family. Surely, you also want your children to have Jewish families, after all, their children are your family, too. Do you love your brothers, sisters, and other close relatives? Then you have to help them, too. And, even beyond your family, you should also try to influence your friends and acquaintances. Remember, the time to try to help is not after it happens.
Teach your children that it is important to you to keep your family Jewish, and that can only happen if they marry Jews. You cannot spring this information on them after they start dating non-Jews.
It is a lot easier to keep the glass from breaking, than to pick up those sharp, broken pieces after it falls.
(This link is to my short videos. Send, “Jews Should Marry Jews” to anyone you feel is in danger of intermarrying.)