Saturday, July 17, 2010

Wasted Words -57

One of the great lessons that we learn from Tisha Bav is not to cry for nothing. The Talmud says , because they were complaining & crying for no good reason Hashem would give them reason to cry , measure for measure.

A fault finder drives away his friends. Mishlei 16:28.
People dislike complainers. Hashems great purpose in creating the Universe was for kindness , Tehilim 89:3. This is Hashems greatest desire , Micha 7:18.
Hashem is our greatest & best Friend , the source of all of our friendships.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Word Metaphors - 56

What if someone said he got a portion the size of a bean , another person said the size of an olive & a third person said the size of a lizards tail.
The Talmud says that the third person is one with a character flaw.
His manner of expression is a clue to what he is all about. Better than a handwriting analysis , we have a word usage profile.
Like the story of the 3 people who were reporting about a banquet they had attended. One said , I loved the Torah insight , the second one loved the singing & the ruach. The third loved the food !
The words you choose to use influence your future & reveal your past. Hashem grants us the power to intensify or diminish our feelings & emotions by means of how we express ourselves.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Value of Words -55

What would you prefer a monetary gift or a verbal one ?

The Talmud Bava Basra 9b , teaches that one who gives a poor person even a single coin gains 6 glorious blessings from Heaven. But one who adds some kind words gains 11 additional blessings.
We see that words are worth almost twice as much as money !
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Choosing Words - 54

The phrase , guard your tongue , follows the verse , who desires life , loves days to see good.
This teaches us the proper attitude. Words should not become our enemy. They can be our friends when we learn how to avoid the negative & choose the right ones.

Here are some tips on finding the best words & feeling better.
1. Relax your mind & emotions, realize that Hashem will help you & enjoy the process. When you focus on loving the days Hashem provides , He will expand your time to get more done.
2. Hashem has ways of providing you with an abundance of the right words at the right time.
3. Keep good cheer & joy at the top of your list of priorities. Don't rush , think instead , how can I enjoy this project Hashem is sending my way. ?
4. Take a pause when you feel drained. Say , let me catch my breath with some silence to regenerate my supply of words.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Words of Judgement - 53.

We are always judging issues & situations.
Thus the C. C. Teaches a great , primary rule in these matters (3:7).
If one errs & judges someone to the negative & then speaks against that person , it is a double crime for he also transgreses the Mitzva to judge others favorably.
We tend to have mistaken assumptions. We may be wrong in thinking we know why someone is doing something you think should be different. We think we know better , how things should be.

Stop judging negatively , be positive & get a double mitzva.
Gossip begins in ones mind , based on the way we perceiove things. We need to change the way we look at things , to always use Torah vision.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Words for a Reason - 52

Some words penetrate our mind & heart for a moment , others for longer & others ring on for a lifetime. Every word has a purpose in our lives & it plays a role in inspiring us to fulfill our purpose.
Some are quick lessons with blessings , gifts that enable & empower you to grow & succeed. A brief phrase may answer a question that sheds light & directs you on the course to stay on track.
Some words are challenges to get us to think , to question , to yearn & grow.
Every season has a reason for us to develop our path & purpose in Hashems service. Every word can guide us closer to align with Hashem.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Timely Words - 51

Words are worth money , but the timing increases the value.
If a fruit is plucked off a tree while it is unripe , it may be inedible , untasty & unhealthy. If you wait too long it can become spoiled & harmful. Everything has a right time.
Mishlei teaches , a thing in its proper time is great. The timing is an essential element of each entity.
The Mishna Avos 4:4 teaches
There is no person who does not have his time !

The word dovor means thing , but is the same as dibur for words. Every word has its time. We need to pray for Hashems help to say the right words at the proper time.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Words that Lead - 50

There is a most fundamental verse In Tehilim - Hashem is informing us - Open your mouth wide & I will fill it up !

What would you like to achieve ?

Hashem can help you succeed.
What makes you really come alive ?
Hashem is eager to lead you to where you want to go , but He wants you to ask Him for help.

You can choose limitations or to break free from them with Hashems help.
If you need a job , realize there is an employer who is looking for someone with your unique skills , ask Hashem to help you connect.
If you are searching for just the right Shiduch , yes , there is someone looking for you , but you need to ask Hashem to be the Shadchan.
It is amazing how Hashem makes incredible connections , but it all starts with our Words to Him.

What do you want most now ?

Don't make the mistake of using the Word - but -
Hashem can do it & He is eager to help you - that is final. Period.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Words in a Forest - 49

What if someone speaks negative words about someone but he is alone in a forest , is it forbidden ?

The Chofetz Chaim cites 3:6:7 , the Rabeinu Yonah that their are two parts to gossip -
The harm & shame to the victim ,
& the choice to speak words that negate someone & rejoice in their pain. Thus the C. C. Teaches that if one spoke with the awareness that no harm will result to the victim , it is still forbidden.
We are suggesting a step further even if one is alone in a room the Torah does not want a person to vilify another.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Small words- 48

When a person speaks there is a sense that you control the world.

We need to recognize the big picture of life - Hashem runs the World. He is always in charge. We become bigger & better when our words are Torah checked.

Not just spell checked. That is how we connect with Hashem & gain the great satisfaction of of participating in Hashems world on His terms & earning eternal rewards.

The Mishna to love your work can remind us also - to love our words. Say them right , & they will be worth a fortune.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

New Words ?

We like to express ourselves. We strive to be unique.

The truth is what you need most is to be sincere & honest to express the gifts Hashem gave you which is YOU.
Each of us concludes our daily Shemoneh Esrei by asking to give us our portion in Your Torah.

Its not a new message that counts most , its your style , flavor , angle , ^l experience that comes through.

Stick to your personal flavor , to the gifts Hashem granted you and you will discover His blessings showering upon you in abundance.
Express your unique words , & you will succeed uniquely.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Words that Connect - 46

At the conclusion of every Shemone Esrei we pray - Hashem , please help me guard my tongue from evil.
When we begin to pray , we ask - please open my lips so that I can relate Your praises.
We have a unique power that Hashem has granted us - the ability to connect to Him by means of our Words.
Hashem is close to all those - - who call Him sincerely !
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Word of Mouth - 45

People usually think in terms of a phrase or a single word when they think of certain entities.
X may mean excellence
Y may mean convenience

Z may mean service
A can stand for dependable
B for a solid reputation.
C for ultimate quality
D for quick delivery.
The perception we create & maintain about ourselves & others can build or destroy ones reputation thus leading to the laws of Loshon Hora.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Approved Words - 44

We look for things to talk about. If we don't focus on doing it the right way , we will find dangerous topics such as gossip , negative news , criticism & other subjects that are undermine the peace.
Thus we need to focus on kosher topics that uplift. Speak in all of His wonders , for example.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Repeating Words - 43

Why can't someone repeat an old story of gossip that everyone knows ?

The more one tells a story , the more it reinforces its hold on people & increases the likelihood of its being believed & repeated further.
We must repent from all negative stories & switching to new kosher ones.
Hashem loves us dearly & He wants us to be happy & to enable others as well , to have happy , good days.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Long Words , short - 42

We may be speaking & find it difficult to find the exit ramp. We speak a lot & tend to get into overkill.

There is a fundamental Mishna Avos 1:17, which we need to review at least once a day - there is nothing better for ones health than Silence !
We will practice our own message & stop this now.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

Secret Words - 41

There are words , comments & expressions that have deeper connotations & thus may be forms of gossip & loshon hora. The C. C gives examples in chapter 3 of secret forms of gossip.
We need to take the time to look below the surface of the words we consider using. It is like mining for gold or oil , the words may be explosive in a negative way & we can become rich by avoiding them.
Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.