Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Fw: Speak softly and carry a lot of wisdom

Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

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From: "Mordechai - Shalom Bayis 911" <Mordechai@ShalomBayis911.org>
Sender: 288608@priorityoneemail.com
Date: Tue, 09 Jun 2015 01:34:06
To: Rav Moshe<rabbig@sakar.com>
Reply-To: Mordechai@ShalomBayis911.org
Subject: Speak softly and carry a lot of wisdom

Hi Rav,

There's a story told about someone who saw their
rabbi's notes left on the lectern. In the margin
were notes about how to deliver different parts of
his message. One note said, "Slow down here and
emphasize." Another said, "Move away from the
lectern and approach the congregation." At one
point the note in the margin said, "Weak argument
here. Yell loudly."

Marriages deteriorate partly because of how
spouses speak to each other. I want to emphasize:
I'm not talking about what you say; I'm talking
about how you say it. Screaming at each other can
ruin things.

And like the rabbi giving a drusha, very often
people raise their voice when their message lacks
merit. Screaming indicates a weakness in your

On the other hand, if you words are measured,
intelligent, and sensitive, you can speak softly
and you'll be heard. In fact, if you speak softly,
you're more likely to be heard.

Shlomo Hamelach said, "The gentle words of the
wise are heard above the shouts of a king over

Gentle words spoken with wisdom get the most

When you yell at someone, they get defensive. It's
a natural protective response. It doesn't matter
how right you are or how much sense you make.
Ironically, if you scream, it's hard to hear you.

Keep this important lesson in mind, share it with
your spouse if you think that'll be helpful, and
practice speaking softly. Test it out and see if
lowering your voice doesn't get you heard.

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Monday, June 8, 2015

Fw: Wealth from Hashem

Now may be a good time for a gem of Torah study.

From: michael kaplan <mjkaplan18@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, 8 Jun 2015 11:01:28 -0400
To: Rabbi Moshe Goldberger<rabbig@sakar.com>
Subject: Wealth from Hashem

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