3 great fundamentals for serving Hashem.
1- shom means to be there. To apply oneself wholeheartedly to the mitzva at hand.
2- Chom means to warm up to do it with enthusiasm.
3- & add beauty to show that we care.
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What if someone claims -
Life is not working out the way he wants it to ... ???
He may be lying.
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Mishlei 15 : 15
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You desire us
You have elevated us above all of the languages
You have sanctified us
You have brought us close
You have called us by Your name
What does all of this mean ?
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The Holiday of Succos is this week. This holiday has two unique commandments: We are to dwell in a sukkah (a hut), and we are to take the “four species” (the citron [esrog], date palm branch, myrtle, and willow branches).
We take the four species, and our custom is to shake, or wave them in all directions. What should we think about when we do this most unusual mitzvah? The Rabbis tell us one possible meaning: These four species of plants represent Jews in four stages of service to Hashem, and we are bringing them together from all directions. Nice idea, but is this what are we supposed to be thinking about when we do this mitzvah?
Judging from the very serious looks that I see on the faces of many religious Jews when they perform this mitzvah, I assume that their intention is to serve G-d. And when they serve G-d, they concentrate their minds on the intense seriousness of the moment.
But what does G-d say that we should do when we take these four species? The Torah clearly tells us that we should take these four and “…you shall rejoice before Hashem.…”[i] If you take them and shake them without joy, you did not do the mitzvah as it is commanded. You have to be happy.
We are commanded by the Creator of the Universe to rejoice at this time. Is there any better reason then this to be happy?
See Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 604. & see the first Mishna Berura.
Its the day before Yom Kipur.
[ We can keep in mind the word Great
Has EAT in it. ]
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We ask Hashem to bring us back to His Torah
Than to His Avoda & than
To complete Teshuva.
How do we accomplish these great goals ?
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Wishing you a wonderful, healthy New Year; May it be a year filled with both spiritual and physical prosperity, a year when you live up to your greatest expectations, make lots of people happy, see your family grow, have all of your needs met, a year when you please G-d so much that He looks down from the Highest Heaven and says, "Bless you, bless you. I am so happy that I created you."
May You Be written and sealed for a good and sweet year.
We say
Did you see Dvarim 30:14
It is very close to you - at your mouth & heart to fulfill.
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Hashem helps those who begin to help themselves.
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Why is this so significant ?
The word for rishon , first is the same as rosh , the head.
We need to focus on what is most important in life - to recognize and thank Hashem for everything. He is the creator of all & the One who maintains all.
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* A confession on bringing Maaser.
* Not to eat Maaser Sheini while Tomay
* or while in mourning.
* Only buy food & drink with Maaser sheini money.
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Thus we have 5 regarding Bikurim & maaser.
And one more - To emulate the ways of Hashem.
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We need to also thank Hashem daily for all of the help He has been providing us with on these fronts.
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1- He must be sure.
2 - He must check on all the halachic details
3- search for a way to confront & straighten out the issue.
4- it may be sufficient his need to calm his worries.
5- if can accomplish his purpose even by diminishing the crime a bit that would be better.
6- this may change if the perpetrator would refuse to obey Beis Din.
7- be careful not to exaggerate.
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3- first offer gentle rebuke
4- the intention should be only to help the unfortunate victim , to lessen the suffering of the victim ,
- to get people to avoid evil & improve their ways.
* This can only work if the speaker & the listeners are not guilty of the same sins they are denouncing.
5- there is no alternative to avoid the loshon hora or to delete the name of the perpetrator.
6 - The results will not be more than what Beis Din would decide if the case came to them.
7- don't exaggerate the crime.
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- if you saw the wicked deeds.
- they are definite sins.
- your purpose of speaking is to teach people to stay away until the person improves.
- don't exaggerate.
- speak in public also if possible.
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He should try to re frame the story to explain it in a positive light.
If that won't work - wait until the speaker leaves & explain it to all of the others.
If he did believe it -
Work on disbelieve it & decide not to transgeress anymore. & confess to Hashem. Also go back to the speaker & change his feelings.
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1- explain gently & firmly that it is not permitted.
2- if that will make things worse , change the topic
3 - if that fails - leave the scene or use your fingers as ear plugs.
4 - if that's not possible
A - decide not to believe the words ,
B - to be upset with being there
C- sit as a silent stone & better yet with an angry face.
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Think ahead - avoid such a group
Don't live in such areas or sit near such people.
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If someone tells you that they lost their case at Beis Din who must be corrupt etc. What should you say ?
Say that Beis Din tries to do their best. If you lost , obviously Hashem had it happen for some reason. If you should have won the case , Hashem will surely reimburse your loss some other way.
You are permitted to return to Beis Din & ask for an explanation , but you may not speak Loshon Hora against them.
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Even if he is only joking & even if he is only speaking to relatives.
Even if he may lose his job for not saying it , it is forbidden.
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Or if there was a meeting & they decided against someone , you may not say , I was on your side but I was outvoted.
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He said a lie.
He dosent spend his money properly for a Mitzva.
He does not want to study Torah.
He does not like to help others.
He does not give loans.
He does not know much.
He is silly.
He is not a good craftsman.
His merchandise is deficient.
He is weak or not too smart.
He is not too rich.
He is arrogant or hot tempered.
He is only interested in his bottom line.
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1 - there are 2 types of Loshon Hora - saying negative things about a person , or saying words that may cause harm.
* it depends on the person. For example , to say - he only learns 3 hours a day or he only gives 500 a month to charity.
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It can drastically change a persons day & mood & ruin ones perspective. What is generally presented as news is contrary to the Torahs teachings of reality & how Hashem wants us to live.
We are here to serve Hashem with joy. To uplift others , to connect with Hashem & to strive to improve ourselves.
The news in general is a form of loshon hora by highlighting , dramatizing & presenting rare situations as if they represent the proper norm.
To live a happier , more positive , healthier & peaceful life , we need to avoid focusing on the news in the wrong way.
We need to learn & pay attention to the Good news , that Hashem is providing in abundance.
We need to say with feeling , this too is good. Boruch Hashem
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* Don't live in that place because there are negative influences upon people there. C. C. 4:10:41.
* Don't hang out with so & so because he behaves with arrogance or anger or wastes time from Torah study etc , and you have to avoid so that you do not learn from his negative ways.
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The explanation for these exceptions is that the primary prohibition of Loshon Hora is when the intention is to demean others & rejoice over their shame , but to protect others from negative influences is a Mitzva.
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But we need to understand the concept. Pain can be a test to see how committed we are to the Mitzva we are doing.
The Mesilas Yeshorim sums up our purpose in life in 3 steps
To perform Mitzvos
To serve Hashem &
To withstand tests.
The more difficulties one encounters in doing what's right , the more rewards for his accomplishment.
In order to enjoy life more , we need to focus on speaking right. One who seems to have more challenges in speech control , should realize that it is a gold mine of an opportunity. Let him devote himself to mastering the laws of proper speech & strike it rich. You will reap huge rewards by focusing on overcoming your urge to speak negative words.
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Although Hashem is invisible , He is the great physician to Whom nothing is impossible. He is the Creator of all & the Healer who can heal all.
We need to focus our thoughts & words of prayer to Him. We can merit help from Hashem by shifting our thoughts to focus on that He is the loyal doctor who is most compassionate. We have the power to merit being healed by Hashem & also to pray for others to be healed , by changing our thoughts to focus sincerely on our prayers.
Our words of prayer can make our world.
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The Mishna Avos 4:18 , cautions - Do not appease someone while he is angry.
Resentment may accumulate at times , people become cold & hostile to each other. We realize it is time to make peace , but how do we start ?
While the anger is seething , it will not work. Don't try to make up before letting go of the anger.
Start talking things over. Realize you both have some flaws , both have some admirable qualities , express some appreciation & gratitude & both sides apologize.
Love & pursue peace , love people ...
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One of the insights in this Talmudic saying is that Hashem has everyones benefit in mind.
At times we need to decline & say we are unable at the present to do something for someone. But then we may think we are letting the person down. The truth however is that if this opportunity was not for you Hashem has other & maybe better ways of helping them.
You need to follow the Torah guidelines of when & how to help others & to know that Hashem is still running the whole world , as always , & He knows who needs what , when.
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What was your best hour yesterday ?
There are times when you are more productive , vigorous & enthusiastic. ! We can extend those times by focusing on then more & making them the vision of how we see ourselves.
You are capable , competent , a good person. Hashem has invested a lot in you to this point & He is eager to do much more for you as soon as you choose to run with it.
The way you see others & yourself will make a great difference in what will develop.
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Not much. When we realize that it was sent by Hashem who has tons of messengers at His disposal , we will relax a bit.
Instead , we should consider thanking & appreciating a critic who may be one of your best teachers.
If its true , correct it ,
If not , forget it.
But either way , Hashem is sending you a caring , loving message - we are in this world to grow , keep on improving & coming closer to Hashem.
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His disciple Rebbi Akiva taught a person should always say - All that the Merciful one does is for Good !
This practice will go along way in preventing Loshon Hora - it is good - why say something negative ?
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No one is hurt by the words they avoid saying.
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Even that the Talmud explains should be avoided , because it is considered behaving as a fool , Mishlei 10.
Why ?
1- why cause pain to the listener ?
2- Why say things that can have a negative effect on the speaker also to think as a fool , who do not understand the real truth , Tehilim 92:7.
The Righteous are considered alive , even after they seem to have passed away.
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The answer is that He was connected to Hashem the source of all wealth. The secret to abundance is to open our mind & heart to Hashem. The key to prosperity is to rejoice with ones portions - all those gifts we keep on receiving from Him.
We need to focus on Hashems unlimited supply , the abilities He gave us to be creative , to expand & increase. Hashem is our supplier , we will never lack , Tehilim 23.
How do you prepare to receive what you want ?
Focus on the thoughts , sayings & prayers that work.
You set my table ... My cup is overflowing.
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* He refuses to study Torah.
* He said a lie.
* He is so stingy he does not spend a dime to honor Shabos.
* I saw him transgress a law of the Sages.
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We need to get away , not to sit it out. Your time , attention & life are valuable , you need to invest your presence in experiences that are worth your while.
It may be uncomfortable or awkward to leave , but staying should be more uncomfortable.
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A person can hurt himself with internal criticism & negative self - talk. When a person cries & complains when they should be thinking & thanking Hashem for the constant flow of happiness He is sending our way all the time.
Some of it is in digiused forms but it is none the less precious & beneficial & we need to claim it now.
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We can transform every situation into an interesting , meaningful experience by utilizing our curiosity to develop a positive attitude.
You can learn to glow with enthusiasm by tuning into the right attitude. Everything can be made fascinating by thinking Hashem made this just so. Why ?
What is the purpose ?
What messages are there for me ?
We can learn to stimulate our mind to soar with joyous , uplifting thoughts.
There are special days such as Tisha Bav where we are obligated to focus on concepts of mourning for that is the Mitzva for that time. Hashem should bring the geula shleima.
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Your attitude is developed by the words you say when you speak to yourself.
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Happiness is a choice we need to decide to commit to. When we choose to rejoice with our portion , we will experience happiness. We can develop & maintain our joy , with Hashems help because it is an inner job , up to us.
Choose to be positive & fun & Hashem will help you succeed at it. The road to wealth is paved with words of joy.
We need to avoid sin , which is said to stand for , self - inflicted - nonsense , & ask Hashem to help us grow in an ideal way. Don't stop until you ask Hashem for what you really want. What is the biggest truth you can dream of now ?
Hashem is our ultimate Employer & He is eager to hear from us !
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Life & death are in the hands of ones tongue , M. 18:21.
The tongue can become a lethal weapon. The gemara tells a story of a person who did a seemingly perfect crime & would not be caught. But than he bragged about it to someone who made sure to get him caught.
This illustrates how Hashem designed the mouth to trap someone when he deserves that.
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A fault finder drives away his friends. Mishlei 16:28.
People dislike complainers. Hashems great purpose in creating the Universe was for kindness , Tehilim 89:3. This is Hashems greatest desire , Micha 7:18.
Hashem is our greatest & best Friend , the source of all of our friendships.
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The Talmud Bava Basra 9b , teaches that one who gives a poor person even a single coin gains 6 glorious blessings from Heaven. But one who adds some kind words gains 11 additional blessings.
We see that words are worth almost twice as much as money !
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Here are some tips on finding the best words & feeling better.
1. Relax your mind & emotions, realize that Hashem will help you & enjoy the process. When you focus on loving the days Hashem provides , He will expand your time to get more done.
2. Hashem has ways of providing you with an abundance of the right words at the right time.
3. Keep good cheer & joy at the top of your list of priorities. Don't rush , think instead , how can I enjoy this project Hashem is sending my way. ?
4. Take a pause when you feel drained. Say , let me catch my breath with some silence to regenerate my supply of words.
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Stop judging negatively , be positive & get a double mitzva.
Gossip begins in ones mind , based on the way we perceiove things. We need to change the way we look at things , to always use Torah vision.
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The word dovor means thing , but is the same as dibur for words. Every word has its time. We need to pray for Hashems help to say the right words at the proper time.
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The Chofetz Chaim cites 3:6:7 , the Rabeinu Yonah that their are two parts to gossip -
The harm & shame to the victim ,
& the choice to speak words that negate someone & rejoice in their pain. Thus the C. C. Teaches that if one spoke with the awareness that no harm will result to the victim , it is still forbidden.
We are suggesting a step further even if one is alone in a room the Torah does not want a person to vilify another.
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We need to recognize the big picture of life - Hashem runs the World. He is always in charge. We become bigger & better when our words are Torah checked.
Not just spell checked. That is how we connect with Hashem & gain the great satisfaction of of participating in Hashems world on His terms & earning eternal rewards.
The Mishna to love your work can remind us also - to love our words. Say them right , & they will be worth a fortune.
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The truth is what you need most is to be sincere & honest to express the gifts Hashem gave you which is YOU.
Each of us concludes our daily Shemoneh Esrei by asking to give us our portion in Your Torah.
Its not a new message that counts most , its your style , flavor , angle , ^l experience that comes through.
Stick to your personal flavor , to the gifts Hashem granted you and you will discover His blessings showering upon you in abundance.
Express your unique words , & you will succeed uniquely.
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The more one tells a story , the more it reinforces its hold on people & increases the likelihood of its being believed & repeated further.
We must repent from all negative stories & switching to new kosher ones.
Hashem loves us dearly & He wants us to be happy & to enable others as well , to have happy , good days.
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Imagine someone shooting someone & then saying that line.
* You look nice today.
What about other days. ?
Leave out the word - today.
Words are powerful , we must watch every one of them.
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