Thursday, August 5, 2010

Review -21

Shiduch Questions
How smart is he ?

One needs to be careful to ascertain the level of Torah knowledge that is being requested. To Know how to learn , can have numerous interpretations & it depends on many factors.
What about street smarts ?
One must be careful to avoid making it sound like the person is a fool , if he is not that street smart.
What about health issues ?
It may be revealed in an accurate manner. But one may not say the person seems to have a weakness , if that is not an illness.
What about saying old historical issues about either side ?
It is not permitted.
What about if there are pritzus issues ?

One should say.
What if you think one side may not fulfill their monetary commitments ?

*Consider , maybe the other side is planning the same & it is a match.
Thus don't say a thing.

* Don't jump to conclusions. There are people who don't seem to have much , but they have saved for years to put funds aside to support their children studying Torah.

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