The Equivalent

The hebrew word for money is Momon. It has the gematriya equivalent to the word - Sulam for ladder.
This teaches us that money can take a person up or down the ladder.
They both equal to 136.
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Leah's Lessons

From the names Leah called her children we learn some of the greatest lessons of how to live our lives -

1- Hashem sees everything we do

2- Hashem hears everything we say
3- Always connect with your spouse who is your best physical friend.

4- always Thank Hashem.
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3 Prayers

We learn that the 3 set times for daily prayer were established by the 3 Avos.

This teaches us how fundamental it is to pray at least 3 times a day. How can we accomplish anything without Hashems help. He is in control , we need His help every step of the way.

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The First Verse

Yaakov left one place to go to another place.

We learn a basic lesson. We have Mitzvos to accomplish here while we are here and then more Mitzvos in the new place. See Rashi.
We need to ask ourselves daily what opportunities for growth do I have here today while I am here. ?
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Answer

Peace is the greatest container of all blessings.
Thus we say in the Shma that we Love Hashem who created us & gave us His Torah which guides us to the highest levels of peace & perfection.

Part two is the Mitzva to love people & bring them closer to Torah thus we connect to part one.
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Love , Twice

Why is love metioned twice in Avos 1:12 ?
Love Peace &
Love People ?
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More Important

What is more important than saying something ?

Doing

Words are not the main thing , action is. See Avos 1:17.

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Action

After all is said & done ,
We need to refer back to Avos 1:15 , to realize that we need to
Say less
And
Do MORE.

We can begin today by looking up the Mishna inside & studying it 5 times.

How are the 3 parts of the Mishna linked together ?
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Happiness

Happiness can be experienced a few moments at a time by closing your eyes or leaving them open & spend a few moments thinking & appreciating some of your many blessings.

Based on Avos 4:1.
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Every Day

Thank Hashem that we get a new chance - every day - to make a first impression from now on.
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Purpose of Life

Life is not measured only by the number of breaths we take , but also by the number of thank You s we offer Hashem for each breath. !
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Developing Love to a Spouse

This message is a response to a number of you who have asked that we address this topic.

See Breishis 24:67

When does it say that Yitzchok loved his wife Rivka

Love is a verb.
The feeling can be develop when you focus & strive to make it happen.
By serving , listening , sacrificing , appreciating ...
It is our responsibility to develop the feeling. It comes through loving actions. It can be regenerated & made to last.
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How to Negotiate

When Avraham tries to save Sedom he pleads what if there are 50 righteous
45 ?
40 ?
30?
20?
10
?
Why didn't Hashem say right away , don't worry there are NO tzadikim there ?
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Silence

Some say it is like gold
We say - it is priceless
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Rain Gifts

The difference between a sunny day & a rainy one is that on a rainy day we are required to focus on the great benefits we gain from the rain.
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The Difference

What is the difference between
Silence is the fence for wisdom

And
A righteous person says little & does a lot ??
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Better than

What's better than smiling ?

Getting others to smile.

That way your smile will last much longer. :)
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One Person

Which one person in history is called the pillar of the world by the Rambam ?

Avraham Avinu.
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Yes

We can choose to rejoice because Hashem put Roses on bushes that also have thorns
Or we can complain about the thorns.

We can also rejoice more by realizing that the thorns serve to preserve & protect the beautiful roses.
Boruch Hashem.
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3 Goals

Our 3 greatest goals are
Torah Study
Avoda - Service
& Kindness

Our 3 primary teachers
Avraham , Yitzchok & Yaakov
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Key Factor

What was the key reason that Noach gained Hashems favor ?

Mishlei explains - the humble gain favor
3:34.
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3 Messages

What lessons was Noach teaching his children & the world by naming them
Sheim
Chom &
Yefes ?

3 great fundamentals for serving Hashem.
1- shom means to be there. To apply oneself wholeheartedly to the mitzva at hand.

2- Chom means to warm up to do it with enthusiasm.

3- & add beauty to show that we care.
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Food for Thought

Our Sages say - On the path one is determined to go , Hashem will lead him.

What if someone claims -
Life is not working out the way he wants it to ... ???

He may be lying.
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Finding Favor

How can we be like Noach to find favor in Hashems eyes ?
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Where does

It say that we should be joyous all year round ?

Mishlei 15 : 15

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What to Say

You chose us
You loved us

You desire us
You have elevated us above all of the languages
You have sanctified us
You have brought us close
You have called us by Your name

What does all of this mean ?
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Fw: What Should Our Intention Be?

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From: Gutman Locks <gutman1@013.net>

Date: Sun, 19 Sep 2010 06:37:22 +0200

To: Gutman Locks<gutman1@013.net>

Subject: What Should Our Intention Be?

 

What Should Our Intention Be?

 

    The Holiday of Succos is this week. This holiday has two unique commandments: We are to dwell in a sukkah (a hut), and we are to take the “four species” (the citron [esrog], date palm branch, myrtle, and willow branches).

 

    We take the four species, and our custom is to shake, or wave them in all directions. What should we think about when we do this most unusual mitzvah?  The Rabbis tell us one possible meaning: These four species of plants represent Jews in four stages of service to Hashem, and we are bringing them together from all directions. Nice idea, but is this what are we supposed to be thinking about when we do this mitzvah?

 

     Judging from the very serious looks that I see on the faces of many religious Jews when they perform this mitzvah, I assume that their intention is to serve G-d. And when they serve G-d, they concentrate their minds on the intense seriousness of the moment.

 

     But what does G-d say that we should do when we take these four species? The Torah clearly tells us that we should take these four and “…you shall rejoice before Hashem.…”[i] If you take them and shake them without joy, you did not do the mitzvah as it is commanded. You have to be happy.

 

     We are commanded by the Creator of the Universe to rejoice at this time. Is there any better reason then this to be happy?

 

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[i] Leviticus 23:40

Choices

A person can choose to be right or to be flexible & forgiving --
& gain Hashems forgiveness & go on to succeed in all areas of life !
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Great Mitzva

On which day do we have a great Mitzva to eat ?

See Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 604. & see the first Mishna Berura.

Its the day before Yom Kipur.

[ We can keep in mind the word Great
Has EAT in it. ]
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3 Stages of Teshuva

How do we divide the process of Repentance into 3 stages in our daily prayers ?

We ask Hashem to bring us back to His Torah
Than to His Avoda & than
To complete Teshuva.

How do we accomplish these great goals ?
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The Definition

Of Teshuva - repentance is
The retroactive free-will decision to change ones past. Rav A. Miller
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Fw: A New Year Prayer

Same to all

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Date: Tue, 07 Sep 2010 11:26:52 +0200

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Subject: Fw: A New Year Prayer

 

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From: Gutman Locks

To: 'Midnight Rabbi'

Cc: 'Mark Ruberto ' ; 'Marshall Staiman' ; 'MILAN '

Sent: Tuesday, September 07, 2010 10:05 AM

Subject: A New Year Prayer

A New Year Prayer

 

    Wishing you a wonderful, healthy New Year; May it be a year filled with both spiritual and physical prosperity, a year when you live up to your greatest expectations, make lots of people happy, see your family grow, have all of your needs met, a year when you please G-d so much that He looks down from the Highest Heaven and says, "Bless you, bless you. I am so happy that I created you."

 

May You Be written and sealed for a good and sweet year.

 

 

 

 

Proper Response

How do we respond to someone who may claim - its difficult to be a Righteous individual ?

We say
Did you see Dvarim 30:14
It is very close to you - at your mouth & heart to fulfill.
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Gam Zu Ltovah

This too is for good , means not only every seeming misfortune but also every new day & every new year.
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Say it & do

Today is a good time to say the last 4 words of Mishna 1:14 of Pirkei Avos.
We suggest you say it 4 times & then apply it to doing the most important task on your agenda.

You can then e mail us that you have accomplished to begin what you are set on doing.
Hashem helps those who begin to help themselves.
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10 Reasons

For Shofar

Rabeinu Saadya Gaon teaches that there are 10 lessons of inspiration that we should focus on when hearing a Shofar blast.
1 - we blow on Rosh Hashana as part of the program to proclaim Hashem as our King.
2- it serves to wake us up to remember our purpose in life.
3- it reminds us of the Shofar blowing at Matan Torah.
4- it reminds us of the messages of all of the Prophets which are also as Shofar wake up calls.
5- reminds us of the noise by the destruction of the Beis Hamigdosh which we pray Hashem should rebuild.
6- reminds us of Akeida where an animal with horns was slaughtered instead of Yitzchak. We learn to be as devoted as the Avos.
7- the sound inspires us to fear Hashem.
8- reminds us of the great day of judgment in the future.
9- pray the great Shofar blast that will usher in the redemption.
10- reminds us of the great wake up of Techiyas Hameisim.
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Subject: Re: Do we have on

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Star Lessons

What did Hashem position the stars so high up in the sky ?

To teach us that we should always strive for great goals which bring us closer to our Father in Heaven.
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The First

Our Sages say - In the merit of Bikurim which are called the first fruits , Hashem created the world.

Why is this so significant ?

The word for rishon , first is the same as rosh , the head.
We need to focus on what is most important in life - to recognize and thank Hashem for everything. He is the creator of all & the One who maintains all.
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6 of 613

This week , Parshas Ki Savoh
Contains 6 of the official Taryag Mitzvos.
* to Recite a Statement when bringing Bikurim , first fruits.

* A confession on bringing Maaser.
* Not to eat Maaser Sheini while Tomay
* or while in mourning.

* Only buy food & drink with Maaser sheini money.
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Thus we have 5 regarding Bikurim & maaser.
And one more - To emulate the ways of Hashem.
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4 forms of Life

The Talmud teaches there are 4 types of people that are considered as dead. These are especially relevant in our preparations for praying for a new year of life.
A poor person
A blind one
A Leper &
Childless.
We need to pray to avoid poverty & health issues , & to pray for healthy & happy children & grandchildren.

We need to also thank Hashem daily for all of the help He has been providing us with on these fronts.
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Time to Change

This month we prepare for our annual review.
One of the most important ways to do so is to develop some true gratitude to Hashem for some of the many gifts He keeps providing for us.
We should focus on some of the 100 brochos we say daily & think about them a bit more.
For example , thank Hashem for the next 3 things that you use your fingers in the next few minutes.
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Two Secrets for Raising Children

Tehilim &
Tears
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Review -21

Shiduch Questions
How smart is he ?

One needs to be careful to ascertain the level of Torah knowledge that is being requested. To Know how to learn , can have numerous interpretations & it depends on many factors.
What about street smarts ?
One must be careful to avoid making it sound like the person is a fool , if he is not that street smart.
What about health issues ?
It may be revealed in an accurate manner. But one may not say the person seems to have a weakness , if that is not an illness.
What about saying old historical issues about either side ?
It is not permitted.
What about if there are pritzus issues ?

One should say.
What if you think one side may not fulfill their monetary commitments ?

*Consider , maybe the other side is planning the same & it is a match.
Thus don't say a thing.

* Don't jump to conclusions. There are people who don't seem to have much , but they have saved for years to put funds aside to support their children studying Torah.

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Review - 20

Shiduchim
If there is information of either side following apikores , chas vesholom ,
One needs to reveal such info. If it is not definite , they should be told to check it out.
Even if the shiduch has been completed & this info might break it up , it is still a Mitzva to reveal this.
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Review -19

One who hears someone speaking Loshon Hora against others & he anticipates that he will keep on delivering his sinful message to others , it is better to try to intercept the evil by telling those people what may happen. Of course the 7 conditions are required.
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Review - 18

The victim himself may speak to those who might help him with the 7 conditions as follows -

1- He must be sure.
2 - He must check on all the halachic details
3- search for a way to confront & straighten out the issue.
4- it may be sufficient his need to calm his worries.
5- if can accomplish his purpose even by diminishing the crime a bit that would be better.
6- this may change if the perpetrator would refuse to obey Beis Din.
7- be careful not to exaggerate.
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Review - 17

We require 7 conditions before one is permitted to say constructive words -
1- To be sure of the facts

2- to be sure that there is no halachic justification for the seeming injustice.

3- first offer gentle rebuke

4- the intention should be only to help the unfortunate victim , to lessen the suffering of the victim ,
- to get people to avoid evil & improve their ways.
* This can only work if the speaker & the listeners are not guilty of the same sins they are denouncing.

5- there is no alternative to avoid the loshon hora or to delete the name of the perpetrator.
6 - The results will not be more than what Beis Din would decide if the case came to them.
7- don't exaggerate the crime.
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Review -16

Dealing with an Apikores
There is a Mitzva to speak against one who denies the Torah or any portion of the Torah.
If you don't know about this person yourself , but others tell you , you need to be cautious & to warn others to investigate.
If one refuses to listen to Beis Din without a valid excuse , we may also demean him.
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Review -15

Dealing with an outright sinner
One may speak negatively about those who are obviously wicked -

- if you saw the wicked deeds.
- they are definite sins.
- your purpose of speaking is to teach people to stay away until the person improves.
- don't exaggerate.
- speak in public also if possible.
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Review -14

How to think
If one sees an average person doing something wrong -
Judge them favorably
* maybe he didn't realize what he did.
If he is a tzadik type person -
Even if what he did seems more negative , one has to judge him favorably.
***
If there is no excuse -
One should speak to the person privately.

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How to Repent
If someone did listen , even though he did not accept any of it -

He should try to re frame the story to explain it in a positive light.
If that won't work - wait until the speaker leaves & explain it to all of the others.

If he did believe it -
Work on disbelieve it & decide not to transgeress anymore. & confess to Hashem. Also go back to the speaker & change his feelings.
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Review - 12

How to React
If others speak gossip -

1- explain gently & firmly that it is not permitted.

2- if that will make things worse , change the topic
3 - if that fails - leave the scene or use your fingers as ear plugs.

4 - if that's not possible
A - decide not to believe the words ,
B - to be upset with being there

C- sit as a silent stone & better yet with an angry face.
***
Think ahead - avoid such a group
Don't live in such areas or sit near such people.
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Review - 11

Even if the information seems so true , one must be careful not to start believing it.
We need to keep in check , not to believe it , only to be cautious to be on guard.
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Review - 10

One may not even listen to words of Loshon Hora , even if he does not plan to believe the words.
However , one may listen if there is a chance it may bring about some benefit such as to protect oneself or others from trouble.
But he may only listen if the speaker also has constructive intentions or the speaker began talking to others before he came.
Thus if someone begins saying negative about someone , we should ask first - is this relevant for me in the future. ?
If someone complains about others , make sure to get all the details so that you can clarify & rectify the situation properly.
When one is only allowed to be careful , but not to believe the Loshon Hora , one may not act in any way different than to treat that person as a fellow Jew.
For example , if there were poor people who were eligible to receive charity , but now there are rumors that they are a fraud , one must still give them charity until the matter is clarified.
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Review -9

One may not believe gossip even if the speaker seems reliable , or its in print or many seem to say it and even if the person who is being vilified is there & he does not deny it.
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Review - 8

One may not accept gossip about any Jew unless
* it was clarified at Beis Din that the person is completely anti TORAH.
* or the person is an apikores on an informer.
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Review -7

Don't Believe.
One may not listen to or believe a negative story about others.

If someone tells you that they lost their case at Beis Din who must be corrupt etc. What should you say ?

Say that Beis Din tries to do their best. If you lost , obviously Hashem had it happen for some reason. If you should have won the case , Hashem will surely reimburse your loss some other way.
You are permitted to return to Beis Din & ask for an explanation , but you may not speak Loshon Hora against them.
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Reveiw - 6

How to Repent
If no one accepted his words-
Regret it ,
Confess to Hashem
& accept to refrain.
If the words had some impact
He needs to first ask the person for forgiveness. Or if possible go back & intercept the words by saying , I made an error etc.
We need to always study & review these halachos & learn them with our family & friends.
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Review - 5

One may not say any negative about others even if it is the factual truth., even if the victim dosent mind.

Even if he is only joking & even if he is only speaking to relatives.
Even if he may lose his job for not saying it , it is forbidden.
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Review - 4

One may not say , I can't tell you about so & so , implying that there is what do say.
Don't say , too many praises about someone , which may lead someone to say , but.
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Review -3

Be Careful
If someone asks you
Who did that ?
Watch out before saying , I didn't do it.

Or if there was a meeting & they decided against someone , you may not say , I was on your side but I was outvoted.
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Review - 2

One may not say -

He said a lie.
He dosent spend his money properly for a Mitzva.
He does not want to study Torah.
He does not like to help others.
He does not give loans.
He does not know much.
He is silly.
He is not a good craftsman.
His merchandise is deficient.
He is weak or not too smart.
He is not too rich.
He is arrogant or hot tempered.
He is only interested in his bottom line.
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Review Notes on Sefer Chofetz Chaim in 26 paragraphs

Preface
There are 35 possible transgressions that one may violate if he keeps on talking without learning the halachic guidelines.

1 - there are 2 types of Loshon Hora - saying negative things about a person , or saying words that may cause harm.
* it depends on the person. For example , to say - he only learns 3 hours a day or he only gives 500 a month to charity.
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Learning from the Best -92.

Who is wise ?
One who learns from all people. Avos 4:1.
Why from all , why not from one good person ?
Even great people may not be perfect. We are human & have many types of challenges.
The way to succeed is to learn the right lessons from many types of people. Take the best lessons from the best & avoid the negative. Focus on what you need to learn with Hashems help.
Even a persons shortcoming can serve as a vital lesson that we are vulnerable & need to strive to overcome the challenges. Every setback can stimulate us & serve as a stepping stone to a greater level of growth.
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Value people - 91

Loshon Hora includes saying anything negative about a person , any blemish & any type of shortcoming. Anything that may cause the person physical or financial harm , pain or fear in any form.
Don't sell anyone short. What you say about people reflects what you feel they are worth. You need to always be alert not to hurt others by any of your words.
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More Exceptions -90

The so called news media has been called Dangerous.

It can drastically change a persons day & mood & ruin ones perspective. What is generally presented as news is contrary to the Torahs teachings of reality & how Hashem wants us to live.
We are here to serve Hashem with joy. To uplift others , to connect with Hashem & to strive to improve ourselves.
The news in general is a form of loshon hora by highlighting , dramatizing & presenting rare situations as if they represent the proper norm.
To live a happier , more positive , healthier & peaceful life , we need to avoid focusing on the news in the wrong way.
We need to learn & pay attention to the Good news , that Hashem is providing in abundance.
We need to say with feeling , this too is good. Boruch Hashem
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Word Exceptions -89

There is a Mitzva to speak up and teach such guidelines -

* Don't live in that place because there are negative influences upon people there. C. C. 4:10:41.

* Don't hang out with so & so because he behaves with arrogance or anger or wastes time from Torah study etc , and you have to avoid so that you do not learn from his negative ways.

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The explanation for these exceptions is that the primary prohibition of Loshon Hora is when the intention is to demean others & rejoice over their shame , but to protect others from negative influences is a Mitzva.
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Stories behind Words - 88

All words have stories behind them but we need to determine which stories to tell. We need to highlight life-giving stories that keep on helping us grow continuously.
Each year we re learn the Parshiyos of the Torah on deeper & higher levels & we need to asses which stories to amplify & replace. We need to develop our creativity & realize how much abundance & infinite potential Hashem blesses us with.
The choices are ours. Which words do we want to use to take us where we want to go ?
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Pain = Gain -87

Yes , it is a Mishna Avos 5:23.

But we need to understand the concept. Pain can be a test to see how committed we are to the Mitzva we are doing.
The Mesilas Yeshorim sums up our purpose in life in 3 steps
To perform Mitzvos
To serve Hashem &
To withstand tests.
The more difficulties one encounters in doing what's right , the more rewards for his accomplishment.
In order to enjoy life more , we need to focus on speaking right. One who seems to have more challenges in speech control , should realize that it is a gold mine of an opportunity. Let him devote himself to mastering the laws of proper speech & strike it rich. You will reap huge rewards by focusing on overcoming your urge to speak negative words.
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Time is a Decision - 86

One who says , I don't have time , its like saying , I don't want to.
We control how we use our time. It is a gift of 168 hours a week from Hashem to use per our choice.
You are in charge & your choices are important.
What needs your attention most now ?
The words you use , the NO to wasting time , and the YES to more joyous time for what matters to you , makes the difference.
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Words of Healing - 85

We say in our daily prayers -
Please bring up a complete healing to all of our wounds.

Although Hashem is invisible , He is the great physician to Whom nothing is impossible. He is the Creator of all & the Healer who can heal all.
We need to focus our thoughts & words of prayer to Him. We can merit help from Hashem by shifting our thoughts to focus on that He is the loyal doctor who is most compassionate. We have the power to merit being healed by Hashem & also to pray for others to be healed , by changing our thoughts to focus sincerely on our prayers.

Our words of prayer can make our world.
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Words of Connection -84

A method for dealing with loneliness is to realize that it is an inner reminder for a person to reach out & connect more with others. Phone friends more , make plans to meet & take walks together etc.
Reach out to your loved ones , don't ignore them. There are times to reach out & many Mitzvos that we can do better with others.
The Talmud has an amazing statement which highlights the great significance of learning to interact more with others -
Either one has friends or death ...
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Words of Lonliness -83

We are tempted to put things off for later. To conquer our laziness , our Sages train us to always say -
If not now , When ?
But there is another factor as well. We are reluctant to do things by ourselves due to loneliness. Thus , finding a partner to work with helps things move faster , smoother & with more joy.
We thrive on guidance , reassurance & encouragement. Gaining the support of others is very helpful to help us achieve our goals.
Even a few words of Chizuk can do wonders to help people achieve great goals.
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Words of Resentment - 82

Words need the right timing , Mishley 15:23.

The Mishna Avos 4:18 , cautions - Do not appease someone while he is angry.
Resentment may accumulate at times , people become cold & hostile to each other. We realize it is time to make peace , but how do we start ?
While the anger is seething , it will not work. Don't try to make up before letting go of the anger.
Start talking things over. Realize you both have some flaws , both have some admirable qualities , express some appreciation & gratitude & both sides apologize.

Love & pursue peace , love people ...
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Words of Thanks - 81

To protect ourselves from saying negative words , it pays to strive to be extreme in saying such positive words as - Thank you.
Gratitude is a fundamental obligation of being a person., to appreciate all of the many favors & gifts we enjoy from others regularly.
There are many people who have been very helpful in many ways to teach others how to get ahead & succeed in life.
We are actually taught on this weeks Parsha 10:12 , that the Torah is hinting to the Mitzva to say at least 100 thank you Brochos daily.
We also need to learn another Mitzva phrase which are sweet words that people enjoy & can make ones day - you re Welcome.
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Good to All - w. 80

This too is for the Good.

One of the insights in this Talmudic saying is that Hashem has everyones benefit in mind.
At times we need to decline & say we are unable at the present to do something for someone. But then we may think we are letting the person down. The truth however is that if this opportunity was not for you Hashem has other & maybe better ways of helping them.
You need to follow the Torah guidelines of when & how to help others & to know that Hashem is still running the whole world , as always , & He knows who needs what , when.
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Word Gifts - 79

We can give each other positive , fine , reputations to live up to.
Who are you when you are at your best ?

What was your best hour yesterday ?

There are times when you are more productive , vigorous & enthusiastic. ! We can extend those times by focusing on then more & making them the vision of how we see ourselves.

You are capable , competent , a good person. Hashem has invested a lot in you to this point & He is eager to do much more for you as soon as you choose to run with it.
The way you see others & yourself will make a great difference in what will develop.
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Words of Apology - 78

What may be the very greatest of the 7 steps of the truly wise is the last one - to admit to the truth.
It heals , leads to change , saying I'm sorry shows that you really care for the person & you are going to set things straight.
The amazing cleansing power , asking for forgiveness , accepting upon oneself a sincere commitment to improve oneself , one step at a time. It begins with saying I'm sorry & I was wrong.
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The greatest Word Skill - 77

We have a unique Mishna which teaches us the great goal of becoming a disciple of Aharon !
We then describe 4 of his attributes that we need to achieve. The question has been raised , which of the 4 qualities may be considered the greatest of them all ?

A suggestion is the third - loving people & that it was his ultimate secret. He would listen to each person & make them feel as if he were their very best friend & that they were the only person in the room at the time.
To develop this skill will change our lives & enable us to follow in the footsteps of Aharon Hacohen.
To devote your full attention to someone , focus on them completely is a super skill that we need to develop.
Consider when you have a meeting with your big boss , you know how to do this well , because you are convinced it matters.
Really great people do this all the time , with every person.

Don't forget & don't get distracted , it will make a great difference in your life.

The fence for Wisdom is -
Silence - it is a way to show others that you are listening to them , which can make them feel like a million dollars.
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Listening to Words - 76

To succeed in learning from all people , we need to learn how to listen well. It is not only a passive activity ,rather an active process.
There are 4 parts to the process as we see them divided in the Mishna Avos 5:10 , as the first 4 principles which define a Wise person -

First step - Listen with Respect

Think who is speaking & why are they significant ? We need to show that we respect the speaker & demonstrate that we are eager to listen to them. Act as if the speaker is the only person around.

Second Step - Don't interrupt

The way you face the person , from your eyes to your body language , can communicate how important they are & how you desire to hear what they want to say.
Step 3 - Don't rush to Respond
Think before you speak to respond. All of these steps require discipline. The more you think it over & consider the meaning & value of the message you just heard , you demonstrate how you value the speaker.
Step 4 - Listen Well & prepare your response
Think , do I have all the necessary information. ?
What will be the consequences of my response ?
Will my response hurt anyone ?
Even if my response is the truth , is it worth it to say it now ?


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Word Focus - 75

When your target is as large as an elephant , you can be sure to connect.
It takes determination , motivation , prayer & effort & Hashem will lead you to achieve. Hashem helps us with abundant success when we focus properly.
Hashem encourages us - Open your mouth wide & I will fill it up.
This is part of the system of , He used to say , which is a method of developing the right focus by means of ongoing review.
But words are not all , the main point is the resulting action (Avos ).
Always think - how can I apply this lesson today. ?
We need to teach ourselves & others how to live & master our challenges.
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Word Dreams - 74

Hashem gave us the power to develop magnificent word portraits that are a delight to behold. Developing our vision , a grand & glorious one of where we are headed , is the key to staying on track to eventually arrive at our destination.
A wise person sees ahead to that which will develop.
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Word Awakening - 73

A mean word coming at you can change ones life & awaken a person to some major blessings. People have decided to focus on what do they really want to do with their lives.
We need to listen well to the gentle nudge so that we can be spared from having to deal with a rude awakening. Every word has a purpose.
Should we get angry at the messenger ?

Not much. When we realize that it was sent by Hashem who has tons of messengers at His disposal , we will relax a bit.
Instead , we should consider thanking & appreciating a critic who may be one of your best teachers.

If its true , correct it ,
If not , forget it.
But either way , Hashem is sending you a caring , loving message - we are in this world to grow , keep on improving & coming closer to Hashem.
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Words of Envy -72

The Tenth Commandment is not to be envious of others. This is so significant because it is a form of counting other peoples blessings instead of your own.
Rather , we are taught to learn from all others. We should realize if Hashem showed me what He gave so & so He is hinting that He is eager to do the same for me.
No one can take anything away from you , if Hashem wants it for you. Hashem closes the 10 with this Mitzva to highlight how significant it is to know that Hashem is always giving us all that we need to become who we can be.
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Words we should Repeat - 71

There was a great Sage who would always say - This too is for our benefit !

His disciple Rebbi Akiva taught a person should always say - All that the Merciful one does is for Good !

This practice will go along way in preventing Loshon Hora - it is good - why say something negative ?
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Word Clarity - 70

Begins when we learn the laws of how to speak properly. When we don't study & review the laws regularly , we tend to see things & say things that are inappropriate.
We need to learn how to view the world clearly , how to avoid saying the wrong things & how to use words properly.

No one is hurt by the words they avoid saying.
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One Word - 69

One small word at a time is the way to get there.
We do need to strive to the exalted vision of eventually reaching the level of becoming completely Loshon Hora free , but it takes time to reach that stimulating , expansive , ultimate goal.
We need to visualize it as we buckle down to take small steps , such as reading one point at a time of this book.
To create healthy & happy relationships with words is one of the greatest opportunities & challenges of our lives. Every word can be a gift from Hashem to use for our well being in an uplifting & elevating manner.
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Avoid Foolish Words - 68.

What about saying things that can be called facts of life such as so & so passed away ?

Even that the Talmud explains should be avoided , because it is considered behaving as a fool , Mishlei 10.
Why ?

1- why cause pain to the listener ?
2- Why say things that can have a negative effect on the speaker also to think as a fool , who do not understand the real truth , Tehilim 92:7.
The Righteous are considered alive , even after they seem to have passed away.

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Words of Abundance -67

Yaakov Avinu was blessed by Hashem with very great wealth. When he spoke about it , Breshis 33:11 , he said - I have everything !
But did he say that only after he had billions in his account ?

The answer is that He was connected to Hashem the source of all wealth. The secret to abundance is to open our mind & heart to Hashem. The key to prosperity is to rejoice with ones portions - all those gifts we keep on receiving from Him.

We need to focus on Hashems unlimited supply , the abilities He gave us to be creative , to expand & increase. Hashem is our supplier , we will never lack , Tehilim 23.

How do you prepare to receive what you want ?
Focus on the thoughts , sayings & prayers that work.

You set my table ... My cup is overflowing.
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Words that fit most - 66

The C. C in chap. 4 offers some suggestions of what can be Loshon Hora in most cases.

* He refuses to study Torah.
* He said a lie.
* He is so stingy he does not spend a dime to honor Shabos.
* I saw him transgress a law of the Sages.
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Beyond Words -65

Are words the greatest form of expression ?
Often , there are other forms , such as simply being there , that matters even more. Some people have said to others , the one thing that meant the most was knowing that you are always there for me. Being there for someone is so vital , so meaningful.
The benefit of a bikur cholim visit is well known to assist in recovery , just being there matters most , well beyond words.
This helps us understand the Mishna in Avos 1:15 -
Greet & accept every person with a pleasant , thoughtful face.
The Mishna does not mention saying words at this point. Right before this we actually say , talk less & do more. Put the proper expression in your face & body language that is the key.
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Time to Leave. W - 64

If someone is sitting with a group & they begin to speak Loshon Hara , if he feels that his offering rebuke will not help at all , that will only make things worse , it is a great Mitzva to leave the area. (6:5).

We need to get away , not to sit it out. Your time , attention & life are valuable , you need to invest your presence in experiences that are worth your while.
It may be uncomfortable or awkward to leave , but staying should be more uncomfortable.
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Self-Talk - 63

Which is worse , having others say Loshon Hora about a person or having that person say it about themselves ?

Imagine someone who protects himself from stray germs from outside , but they inflict themselves with constant negativity & pollution.

A person can hurt himself with internal criticism & negative self - talk. When a person cries & complains when they should be thinking & thanking Hashem for the constant flow of happiness He is sending our way all the time.
Some of it is in digiused forms but it is none the less precious & beneficial & we need to claim it now.
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Boring Words ? -62

What makes something boring ?

We can transform every situation into an interesting , meaningful experience by utilizing our curiosity to develop a positive attitude.
You can learn to glow with enthusiasm by tuning into the right attitude. Everything can be made fascinating by thinking Hashem made this just so. Why ?
What is the purpose ?
What messages are there for me ?
We can learn to stimulate our mind to soar with joyous , uplifting thoughts.
There are special days such as Tisha Bav where we are obligated to focus on concepts of mourning for that is the Mitzva for that time. Hashem should bring the geula shleima.
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Speed of Words -61

Words can motivate us
To release our energy , talent & passion ,
The speed one travels on the roads of life are determined by Hashem based on ones beliefs , concepts & the words you choose to use.
The Talmud declares - a person is led on the path he chooses.
When you release your true passions about something , Hashem will enable you to achieve it.

Your attitude is developed by the words you say when you speak to yourself.
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Joyuos Words -60

Happiness leads to wealth , Avos 4:1.

Happiness is a choice we need to decide to commit to. When we choose to rejoice with our portion , we will experience happiness. We can develop & maintain our joy , with Hashems help because it is an inner job , up to us.

Choose to be positive & fun & Hashem will help you succeed at it. The road to wealth is paved with words of joy.

We need to avoid sin , which is said to stand for , self - inflicted - nonsense , & ask Hashem to help us grow in an ideal way. Don't stop until you ask Hashem for what you really want. What is the biggest truth you can dream of now ?
Hashem is our ultimate Employer & He is eager to hear from us !
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One Word Away -59

You are never more than one word away from delivering your message.

The C. C. States clearly 5:7 ,
Just as it is forbidden to speak against a person , so too , it is forbidden to speak against his merchandise or any of his things out of envy , etc.
One can take any question or comment , add a one - sentence segue & use it to proclaim a message or clarify the truth. We can learn to move conversations into meaningful zones.
Instead of focusing on critical , negative issues, you can steer the conversation to the right track with a wisely chosen bridge of words.
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Word Trouble - 58

The mouth of a fool knock him down , Mishlei 18:7.

Life & death are in the hands of ones tongue , M. 18:21.

The tongue can become a lethal weapon. The gemara tells a story of a person who did a seemingly perfect crime & would not be caught. But than he bragged about it to someone who made sure to get him caught.
This illustrates how Hashem designed the mouth to trap someone when he deserves that.
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